Lets take a minute to talk about change.
This topic is at the front of my mind from personal experience. Last night my mother and I went to the mall to upgrade our iPhones – this should be a fun experience right? Wrong. New phones suck. They are stressful, impossible to figure out, and none of your apps are in the same place or the same folder anymore. Realistically it takes at least a week to re-download, re-arrange, and re-learn your new device. Who has the time for this now a days? The answer to this question is – almost no one.
However that isn’t really what this post is about. This post is about change.
Last night, and continued to this morning, I noticed how big the technology gap was between generations. Obviously this is something I have been told growing up: “you are so lucky, you grew up with technology, you understand how it works inside and out” but until this day I have not actually seen or experienced how big this gap was. I bet most of you can understand where I am going with this – it took me a total of 60 minutes to transfer and set up my new phone and my mom is ready to take hers back and switch back to her broken and freezing iPhone 4. Obviously this is not an option I am going to let her go with – instead of course I will spend my night tonight trying to set up hers.
However this experience that I got last night made me realize how frustrating and scary change can be – even for something as little and simple as a new cellphone.
Change happens every day. Every day you get to make choices and decisions that can completely change your life. Sometimes you have complete control over them – other times it is left up to fate and the universe and you are struggling to keep up. Right now I am left asking myself what type of change I like better? Do I like being in control and choosing my own path, or do I like the curve ball that gets thrown at me sometimes and I am forced to adjust to the change? I don’t currently have an answer for this question – but I am now pondering it.
I am not going to lie to you, I have some anxiety issues in my life so obviously I don’t embrace or welcome change as easy as another person might. But I have also never looked at change as power – until today. In fact, I think I used to avoid the topic of change because it’s scary and unknown and I try to focus on the positive and stable things in my life.
On one hand, I like to be in control of my life. I like things to be planned and stick to those set plans. But when it comes to change I am left stressing and debating the decision for extremely long periods of time. I bet a few of you can relate to that feeling. The uneasy feeling that takes over your body, and the stress headaches that don’t go away regardless of the number of Advil’s you take. However, I can conclude, from personal experience, that once I finally make the jump to change I never regret it and I normally love where this change has taken me, eventually.
But on the other hand, when I have no control over the change that has been inflicted on my life, I am forced to deal with it immediately, and I don’t get to emotionally and mentally drain myself with the decision. Although normally when this happens I am left stressed out and worrying until it is complete – but it is not self-inflicted or near as long.
Now that I have wrote both of those options out, I think I like both equally. I like to be in control, because it makes me feel powerful, but sometimes I think I need to be knocked on my ass and forced to deal with the change that I cannot control.
As a whole though I think change is important and I think it is miraculous. If you think about it, and I mean really think about it, you have the power to completely change who you are. If you don’t like your hair, or the way your friend is treating you, or the cellphone you have – you have the power to do something about it. How cool is that? I think it’s pretty freaking cool.
Change doesn’t have to be a scary thing. In fact, it is probably the most powerful thing that humans are capable of doing. It gives us complete control over our lives and that should be something you should want to embrace – not run from.