Pushing Boundaries

Throughout life you will come into contact with two main types of people. People who will think you are perfect just the way you are, they will be content on sitting around and staying the same. With these people your life will never change or grow. You will always stay steady, comfortable and small. For the sake of this post we will refer to them as “Type A”. And then there are people who will push you out of every single comfort zone that you know and force you to grow as a person. These type of people will constantly drag you forward instead of standing behind you waiting to catch you when you fall. They will force you into new places. They will, of course, be referred to as “Type B”.

In the end you will thank both of these types of people.

At certain points in your life you will need to stay steady and consistent and “Type A” will always be there to reassure you during those times. There will be days, weeks and sometimes even months when you want to do nothing more than sit around. You will want reassurance and stability and they will be able to give it to you – mainly because you will be doing the same routine every single day.

Eventually though, you will be presented with a question on if you want to endure the same routine every day, or if you want to expand and grow – and at this point in your life, you will need to make a decision. If you are like me, when this question is presented to you, you will decide that it is time to break down all your walls and expand your life into a better and larger space even if it means leaving some people behind.

At this time you will thank the second type of people. (formally known as “Type B”)

Those are the people who will constantly be on your ass, especially on the days when you want to resort back to your comfort zones. They will be the people to grab your hand and drag you forward, even if it is reluctantly sometimes.

Unfortunately though, these two types of people cannot stay in your life at the same time. You either make the decision to jump full forces, or you always stand on the side lines watching. Unfortunately the way you live your life is often reflected on your support group, which always seems to bring us back to the people you spend your energy on. On the other hand though, and what is so lucky and fortunate about this life is that the choice is always yours and you get to make it whenever you want.

I recently made the decision that my life needed a change. Suddenly my comfort zone and my life that I was always so content with just wasn’t enough for me. I needed more. More space. More Adventures. More happiness. And most importantly, in my opinion, more inspiration. I needed to make the decision to stay with what I knew or jump into something I didn’t.

I decided to jump. To surround myself with people who push me, motivate me, and even sometimes force me into situations that they know I can handle, but that I am unsure about. And I am not going to lie to you it is scary as hell. Some days I don’t like it at all. But other days I look back on something that I just accomplished and I can’t believe that I was so scared of it in the first place. There are numerous occasions where I would like to resort back to my comfort zone, but I know that I have people in my life that won’t let me do that anymore and I am so unbelievably thankful for every single one of them – even though I don’t always show it.

Here is a thank you to all the significant people in my life:

* Thank you for forcing our friendships even on the days when I am not always friendly
* Thank you for breaking down all my walls
* Thank you for forcing me out of my comfort zone every single day
* Thank you for pushing me to be a better person
* But most importantly thank you for giving me the strength, courage, and support that I need to push and expand all the boundaries in my life – for the better of course.

I really liked my comfort zones, and I was very content with all the boundaries that I had in my life. But I quickly realized that my boundaries were restricting me and there is so much more that the world has to offer. Mostly what I realized is that life starts outside of your comfort zone – well at least it did for me. Every day I am pushing myself, and definitely pushing my limits, but every night I lay in bed 100X happier then I was the day before. Even though I am forcing myself into awkward situations or pushing my limits into the unknown, my life somehow seems more full. And in my opinion it pays off to face your fears when you come out on the other side feeling like I feel right now.

I still have bad days, and I still get sad, but I also opened my eyes to see just how beautiful and wonderful my life can be if I push all my boundaries and face my fears. This isn’t an easy thing for me to do, and I know that I wouldn’t be able to do it without some of the people in my life, which is why I am so thankful for the type of people who motivate everyone around them. But I also know that even though these people that I surround myself give me courage and motivation the real change in my life comes from within me.

There are two main types of people in this world, but the best thing about that statement is YOU get to decide the type of people you want to surround yourself with – and it is ok to change it up depending on the different stages in your life – but most importantly, YOU get to decide the type of person you want to be for yourself and for everyone else around you.

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